My baby is one year old. Last weekend we had a big birthday party for him. Because both A and I have big families, almost 50 people came to celebrate with us. It was great to have everyone together, especially having a group of babies to play together. Unfortunately E didn’t last for the whole party and had to take a break for a mini-nap. But he made it back in time for cake (not that he eats it!)
At the party, many people asked me if this year has gone by fast. It has, for the most part. But in some ways it has gone by slow. I expected a lot of things to have happened in this year that haven’t. I assumed E would be sleeping through the night. He’s not. I assumed E would be eating solid food and would be nursing less. He’s not. I thought I would be itching to go back to work. I wasn’t, although I’m getting there now.
It has been a life-changing year for sure. I have experienced some high highs and some low lows. In fact I’ve probably cried more this past year than I had in my life before E was born. But E has also brought a new kind of joy that I had never before experienced.
After a tough first two weeks, E and I mastered our nursing relationship and I’m so proud to have reached the one year mark. My goal is to meet the World Health Organization‘s recommendation to continue breastfeeding up to two years and beyond and I feel like we are on our way. I never thought I would be an attachment parent and I certainly never thought I would be co-sleeping but my instincts overrode my brain and it was clear that I would not be leaving my baby to cry and I found I actually felt more comfortable having E close by at night (most of the time!) And I feel so lucky to have learned about proper babywearing. In fact, the back carry in our Beco changed my life.
Learning to parent has definitely had an impact on A`s and my relationship. We are pretty darn happy and overall I think we`ve made it through relatively unscathed, and he is an amazing father. But the new challenges and frustrations that come along with being a parents definitely impacted our relationship some days.
Having E meant that as a family, we are much more in demand and we’ve really made a point of seeing all of E’s grandparents pretty regularly and that has meant a bit less time with some less close friends.
Now we’ve wrapped up E’s first year by buying a new house and selling our condo. E’s second year will be another unique journey with a move, my return to work and all the developments that happen in a child`s second year – which will hopefully include sleeping through the night and eating solid food!